- How do you prioritize stuff?
- How do you discern important stuff from less important stuff?
- How do you set goals?
- What do you do first?
- What choices are the most impactful?
- Can you pursue your dreams and pay your bills at the same time?
- What am I reading?
We love helping you solve these conundrums. Step by step, with the right support, life can become a lot more manageable.
You see, in a world that is now filled with perfectly posed Facebook photos and filtered Instagram posts, it has become even harder to lead an authentic life. Lacking authenticity prevents us from leaning into our vulnerability, and avoiding vulnerability keeps us from asking for help.
The best time to see a therapist is now, and here are some of the myths that keep us from asking for help:
1. It’s too expensive.
You’re right, therapy can be expensive, but it depends on who you seek services from and how willing you are to investigate the resources available to you. Your health insurance covers it!
2. I have too much going on, and I can’t commit to weekly therapy for months and years.
Hey, most therapists can’t either! It’s a myth that the only type of therapy involves a lengthy, expensive commitment. Gone are the days of laying on the couch for hours on end, free associating while someone passively takes notes from across the room. Therapy is an ongoing conversation and an active dialogue. It is purposeful and targeted toward your goals. You can expect to enter brief therapy for 3-6 sessions, on average.
3. I’m already set in my personality. Why change now?
Because you can! We all have room for improvement and exploration. As a young adult on the verge of a lifetime of important interpersonal experiences (job promotions, intimate relationships, friendships…the list goes on), you have the ability to break any negative habits now. Do you often refrain from speaking up, and is it starting to affect your work life and friendships? Are you struggling to stay motivated? Are you a workaholic? Therapy can be the perfect lab to experiment with new behaviors and traits. Your therapist is not your friend, which means he/she is going to be honest with you about their reactions to you. This is a unique perspective that we rarely get anywhere else in our lives. You can actually build your confidence, assertiveness, interpersonal skills, and self-esteem in therapy.
4. I’m casually dating and finding “the one” isn’t exactly on my radar. I don’t need to deal with that until later.
Believe it or not, the best time to work on your love life is before you actually have one. You may be more committed to a Netflix marathon than an actual human being right now, but this doesn’t mean you won’t be interested later in life. Therapy can offer a judgment-free space to explore what you want out of your love life. Do you find yourself in a constant cycle of feeling excited about someone and being let down? Are you struggling to get out of the casual-dating vortex and trying to enter a more serious relationship? Are you noticing a pattern across your dating experiences? Don’t delay, talk about it soon to better understand your needs and how you view healthy relationships.
5. Okay, maybe I’m sort of down, but it’s not like I’m grieving a death or going through a major life crisis. I’m not “depressed”, so therapy isn’t for me.
Maybe you don’t have a DSM-V diagnosis. But feeling stuck, nervous, or unsure is as good a reason as any to seek counseling. Therapy does not solely exist for those who are struggling on the severe side of the mental health spectrum. It is designed to help you improve your quality of life in whatever way makes sense to you. The therapy process can allow us to adjust to big life changes like career shifts or cross-country moves, and it can help us navigate important decisions.
Emerging adulthood is filled with heavy stressors, but you don’t have to go through all of it alone. We can all benefit from a healthy outlet for processing and exploring. Consider therapy as yours.